Tuesday, December 30, 2008

A PERSON WHO LOVES



P
eople learn to love. Love doesn't just happen. It doesn't appear to be an innate or inborn characteristic. The ability to love must be taught and is acquired within a social context. It is a skill upon which other relationships build.

A person who loves --

- has empathy for the loved one, meaning that the person understands and feels the feelings the other experiences, which are shared intimately;

- is deeply concerned for the welfare and happiness of the loved one. This concern is deep that it enters into the way a person patterns his or her daily existence. It affects how that person makes decisions and plans for the future;


- is not merely concerned about the loved one's welfare, but does something about it. The person who loves finds pleasure in actively working for the other's welfare. Time and money are given freely toward this end; and


- allows the loved one the freedom and independence to chart his or her own course in life. A person who loves is not possessive, but fully accepts the other's unique individuality. The loved one is free to act and become whatever he or she wants to become.


These characteristics of love apply equally well to parent-child relationships between old friends, and long-term partnerships between lovers.


30 comments:

Monchet said...

Yes, and everything is rainbow to a person, who is so much in love!

Monching said...

The person in love is always happy!

Karl Aaron said...

T2 Bay,

A person who has the ability to love is capable of human emotion.

JayR said...

Pa-comment din, Tito Bay bago magpiano lesson. I heard that love begets love, what's the meaning of this phrase, Tito Bay?

Monching said...

A person who is in love knows no bound! Pinag-isipan ko pa yan magdamag ngekkk!!!

Monchet said...

Excessive expression of love is a poison. Pinag-isipan ko rin nang matagal yan ngekkk ulittt!!!

MonMon said...

Good roaming. Am late, but I am in love ngekkk!!! Maraming kalaban!

Ramonching said...

A person in love is always tulala ngekkk!!!

Nakasingit, wala ang daga eh!

bingkee said...

This is God's greatest commandment--if we have faith and no love at all, we are nothing.

Bay Martin said...

@ Monchet,

Everything is beautiful and very colorful to a person, who is so much in love!

Bay Martin said...

@ Monching,

To be in love is to be happy!

Bay Martin said...

@ Karl Aaron,

Thanks! Start working on your Hanon. You are too young to be in love. Sumbong kita sa Nanay mo!

Bay Martin said...

@ JayR,

"Love begets love?" It means if we wish to be loved, we must first learn to love.

Bay Martin said...

@ Monching again,

Yes, and love is endless if appreciated. Love is patient, A person who is sincerely in love is willing to wait!

Bay Martin said...

@ Monchet again,

Excessive attachments of jealousy can turn love to destruction. A sincere relationship is a great aid in removing the poison of jealous suspicion.

Bay Martin said...

@ MonMon,

I know you are ... kaya laging maningning ang iyong mga eyes, para kang vampire na laging nadidiligan ng dugo ughhh!!!

Bay Martin said...

@ Ramonching,

Nahihilo ako sa 'yo and daming aliases!

Not only tulala, bingi at pipi pa in the name of love.

Bay Martin said...

@ Lady Bingkee,

Yes, since God is love, He is the answer to all our trials and tribulations. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear (Bible).

Monchet said...

Love is all sacrifices!

Monceht said...

A person in love feels the freshness and coolness of everything!

jazhaze said...

love is a many splendored thing.....we all want to fall in love. every emotion is magnified!!
where every sense is heightened
and really feeling is great!!

Ramon said...

Love is forgiving! Kaya mo yan?

Monch said...

A loving person is gentle!

Monching said...

Down ang internet namin, ngayon lang nabalik. Singit ulit. Love ko ang post na 'to dahil marami akong alam tungkol sa love. Wait ka lang, hane!

Bay Martin said...

@ Monchet,

May be, you should say, love is full of sacrifices!

Bay Martin said...

@ Monchet,

Wow, how poetic! I like that line! Ilang buwang mo minemorya ha ha ha!!!

Love is a fragrant as a fresh air in the field.

Bay Martin said...

@ Jazhaze,

And it's the April rose that only grows in the early spring.... love is nature's way of giving, a reason to be living, a golden crown that makes a man a king..... love is a many splendored thing ha ha ha. Ayan ha tinuloy ko ang kanta.

Have a great time!

Bay Martin said...

@ Ramon,

A person in love keeps meaning to be forgiving, too!

Bay Martin said...

@ Monch,

and meek...!!!

Bay Martin said...

@ Monching,

who keeps conjugating his name... take your time!