Death from illness or accident occur to people of every age and stage of life, even the prenatal. A colleague is going through a very rough time of accepting the sudden demise of his elder brother.
When someone is dying, members of the family often experience guilt feelings or anger at being left alone in the world. These feelings may come from conflicts with the dying person that have not been settled. Often, family members feel it is wrong for the dying person to die while they survive. This attitude can lead to guilt feelings, which may need to be resolved in therapy.
If you have ever had a death in your own family, you know how upsetting it is to everyone. This is not only because you have lost someone dear to you, but also because the survivors are frequently confused about the role they should play in the dying process. If we share the concerns of the dying, as well as tend to their physical needs, death is easier for all.