Tuesday, February 23, 2010

FINGER POINTING



A
man asked his father-in-law, “Many peop
le praised you for a successful marriage, could you please share with me your secret?”. The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, he could not find a better husband than you.”

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war.

We should always remember than when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistakes, too. Finger pointing doesn’t solve any problem. It normally leads in out of control, heated personal attacks, badmouthing, the end result is physical fighting.



A few rules should be set in place to maintain a level of civility.


11 comments:

Unknown said...

Very true indeed!

Bay Martin said...

When dissatisfied or frustrated at something, it is easy to blame someone else for our unhappiness and misery. Sometimes the chosen scapegoat may have very little or nothing to do with our original frustration, yet having a scapegoat to blame for our problems makes somehow our negative feelings less unexplainable. We feel that we 'know' whom to blame.

Blaming others is very common, everyone does it sometimes to some degree. Yet blaming the victims becomes more serious when it is done by professionals who are rather supposed to help victims.

Nathan said...

It happened to me once! I took the blame for the shortcomings of another, and wound up at the losing end.

Ka Igme said...

Tama ka 'dyan, Kap, maraming mga taong ganyan, mahilig ipasa sa iba ang kanilang mali.

Unknown said...

Scapegoat tactics!

Unknown said...

Blaming others sa sariling pagkakamali to protect own interest di ba!

Anonymous said...

Very, very interesting. It teaches a lesson.

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Den said...

Direct hit ka 'dyan!

war and Peace said...

OKS NA oks!